I used to work in banking, and I was always surrounded by a lot of young mothers.
I didn’t have any kids yet, but it always broke my heart to see those moms on their first day back from maternity leave, tears in their eyes. I knew that they wanted more than anything to not have to come back to work, but that wasn’t an option for them.
I always thought growing up that I wanted to be a stay at home mom when I had babies. Fast forward to my working days, and I actually enjoyed having a career. I liked dressing up, having a routine, being around other adults every day. I liked getting promotions and living a nice lifestyle that we could afford.
And then I had my own baby. I was working at a new job, so the max amount of maternity leave I could have was 6 weeks. I went back and forth and eventually decided I would come back to work after baby.
Even halfway through my leave, I still wanted to go back. I liked my job, my coworkers, my “office” space, and of course the extra income I brought in. As a first time mom, I didn’t expect all the feelings that came with the new postpartum period. I loved loved loved my baby of course, but I missed my old life. I missed being able to simply go to work every day.
So when my six weeks were up, I drove to the daycare to see about enrolling my son. But I couldn’t go inside. Something had changed and I wanted more than anything to stay home with my baby. I finally knew how all those other new moms I’d worked with over the years felt.
If you’re biggest desire is to stay home with your baby, you’ve found your way to the right place. My passion and goal is to help you be able to do that!
How Much Money Do You Really Need?
The thought of having to replace your entire income can be huge and scary! But have you ever stopped to think about how much money you would save by not going to work?
You’ll easily save money on…
- Going out to eat for lunch
- Gas money for your commute
- Buying work clothes
You’ll also save your household money because you’ll have more time to dedicate to things like meal planning, learning how to lower your monthly expenses, etc.
When I was still working we ate out WAY more than we should have. I was just too drained to make decisions about what to cook and going through the hassle of cooking and cleaning after a long day at work. It was SO much easier to just get takeout on the way home.
Now that I’m not working, food is one huge way I can help make up the difference from my missed income. Which brings me to…
Learn New Skills
After quitting my job and getting through those first few months with a baby, I’ve learned more and more about what it takes to make my household run smoothly.
Meal planning and cooking is something that’s never come natural to me. I just don’t enjoy cooking, and I hate the decision fatigue that comes with figuring out what to cook each night.
But I’ve found that now that I have more time to dedicate to what we eat, it’s becoming less and less of a chore. I get excited when we try out a new recipe and it actually tastes good!
Learning new skills like cooking, budgeting, sewing, etc. can help you save tons of money around the house and help to make up the income from your job.
Bring In Some Cash
This step is not always necessary, and honestly the task of taking care of your home and keeping your children alive and happy is a full time job already. But if you miss bringing in an income or truly need to have more household money to pay all the bills, you’ll need to find some ways to bring in some cash.
The good news is there’s lots of options here. You can go the traditional route of selling for an MLM (although if you’re not careful, this can cost you way more than it earns.) You can make everything from printable art quotes to customizable jewelry and sell it on Etsy. You can start your own blog.
If you need guaranteed cash quickly, you could consider getting a part time job until your own business takes off. If you’re used to working full time, this could be just the balance you need to bring in an income for your family and still get more time to spend with them.
Set Expectations With Your Spouse
Finally, I want to stress how important it is that you and your spouse are on the same page with your choice to become a stay at home mom.
If one of you secretly thinks you should be working, you’re going to have some resentment on your hands fast. Being a stay at home mom is hard because some days it looks like you’ve done absolutely nothing all day. The house is a wreck, dinner hasn’t been started, and you’re still in your pajamas. But it’s been a clingy day for your baby and so they take first priority. Your spouse should understand that your job is just as important as theirs, no matter how the day turned out.
Be sure to talk with your spouse about your expectations for each other when you leave your job. What chores will you each tackle, are you expected to bring in any side income, etc.
You Can Become a Stay At Home Mom – More Resources
It may not be easy, especially if you live on a tight budget, but you CAN become a stay at home mom. It will take lots of work and sacrifice, but the payoff is so worth it! If your desire is to stay home with your kids, you can make it happen. I write about lots of ways to save money, budget, and bring in extra money, so be sure to check out some of my other posts to keep learning more.