Maybe you’ve had a tough week.
You started off January 1st, ready to tackle the world and your long list of resolutions.
But somewhere between weeks two and three, you hit a snag. Maybe you had a big event that threw your entire routine off, and you didn’t recover for a whole week.
Maybe you lost the motivation somewhere along the way–that big shiny goal didn’t shine so bright anymore.
(Can you tell I’m talking to myself yet?)
Believe me when I say, I know how this feels. I am one of those people who loves goals and resolutions, to-do lists and calendars, so January is one of my favorite months of the year.
I set some pretty big goals for myself this year. My number one goal is to get out of debt. My husband and I think we can do it in less than the year actually, about 8 months.
My next huge goal is to earn enough money from my blog to have the option to quit my day job. Over the last few years I’ve realized that I have a strong entrepreneurial mindset, and working for myself is where I want to end up in life. I also know that this is completely possible, if I put in enough work.
So I surprised myself when I got off track for a few weeks. There have been days when I didn’t even look at my blog at all. Some days, all I could manage to do was schedule one pin to my best group board, so at least I had something working for me. Other days, I did nothing at all.
So hear me when I say, I know how it feels to fail your resolutions. To have that feeling that you’ve let yourself down again. But hear me now: you don’t have to stay there!
Forgive yourself and start again.
Just because you’ve failed for a day, a week, or a month, doesn’t mean you have to keep failing. This does not have to be what your whole year looks like, just a repeat of failing and trying, trying and failing. You can do this! You only have to change your mindset.
You have to agree with yourself right now that your dreams are more important than your temporary struggle. You have to make some commitments to yourself. Do it now, and write them down where you have to see them everyday.
Here is an example of what some of my commitments look like:
- Wake up at 5 a.m. every day to work on my blog before going to work.
- Take training from people who know what they’re doing, and implement it.
- Do not listen to the negative voices–either in my own head, or from those around me. Most people do not think the same as me!
I think that last point is what gets a lot of us. When you tell people you are working on changing your life, by starting a business, changing your eating habits, getting your house organized, etc., you are going to hear many negative things. You are going to hear people say that they tried that and it doesn’t work. Don’t listen to them. They simply did not try hard enough, and quit too soon. That may sound harsh, but almost all of the time the only thing that separates successful people from the people who fail is hard work and persistence. It is hard to work for six months without seeing any money or results, but if you want to start a blog for example, that’s what you’re probably going to have to do.
Don’t reinvent the wheel.
Find a system that somebody has used before you to be successful and follow it. If this system has been proven over and over again, then you know you shouldn’t fail if you actually stick to it. If your goal this year is to get in shape, don’t just go join a gym. Join a boot camp or nutrition program then show up, over and over again, until you’re where you want to be.
Have enough faith in yourself to work towards what you truly want! Determine what it is going to take to actually hit those goals. What action steps do you have to take to make this year different?
Like I said, my big goal this year is to become debt free. So my husband and I sat down and made a plan to actually make that happen this year (I’ve had this same goal for the past three years, and our debt hasn’t budged.)
One thing we realized is that we were wasting way too much money on food. Like $350 dollars some months just because we like the convenience of eating out. If that seems like a big number, I challenge you to look at your bank statement. Two people eating out for lunch a few times a week could easily add up to that amount alone, and that’s not even mentioning dinners or weekends.
So what did we decide to do about it? We decided to give ourselves some spending money each week – $20 each – and an extra $20 on the weekends for a movie. Yes this adds up to $240 a month we could be paying on our debt, but we’ve realized that we need to give ourselves a little freedom during the month so we won’t get burned out and return to our old ways.
And honestly, I don’t foresee us spending that whole $240 each month, but we know it is there if we “need” it.
What is your big goal this year? Do you want to get out of debt like us? Give yourself some quick wins: sell the laptop you don’t use, the perfume you don’t wear, and the textbooks you don’t need. Set a budget going forward and stick to it–use cash for your spending money, and all the bills and debt gets paid from what’s in the account. Join a course, an online accountability group, or meet up with some like-minded friends each month to stay on track.
You have to change your actions to change your end game.
So if you’re in the last week of January, and you’ve already had some slip-ups and set-backs, please do not give up. You still have 48 weeks this year to make a difference. Create some new habits and give yourself some time to follow through with them.
- Forgive yourself, and start again.
- Find some action steps and just start doing them.
- Join a course, accountability group, etc.
- Do not re-invent the wheel–find a system and stick to it.
Please know that if you’ve already messed up on your goals that this is not the end for you. The fact that you’ve read this post means that you believe in yourself to not let this stop you. Pick your feet up, dust yourself off, and get to work.
What are you working towards? What’s your huge goal? Let me know in the comments below or shoot me an email–I would love to hear from you!